I know how you feel, it is hard but try to divert your attention with something else. I know easier said than done but do not start blaming yourself, she was the one who was downright rude. You did nothing wrong.
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Thank you, Jo, so glad you like it!
And 4 sales for the tally, Alison @FluffStuffCrafts
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Sarah, @dotterypottery Iām so sorry you had to suffer that. You need a massive hug. In those situations thereās nothing you can do/could have done, she was going to āhave a goā any way. But itās horrible, upsetting and anxiety provoking. Sending hugs. Xx
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Afternoon everyone,
Sarah @dotterypottery I hope your husbands operation went well. Remember, although they get out of hospital quickly heāll still need looking after when he gets home, i know from experience! Iāve had it done twice! The 2nd time during covid and the NHS did it via a private hospital which was real luxuryā¦
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Thank you xx
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Donāt worry, Iām sure heāll make sure heās getting waited on hand and foot!
Heās just phoned meā¦heās out of surgeryā¦heās very happy from the anaesthetic!
They had to insert a mesh, donāt know the implications of that but at least itās all done.
Theyāve run out of paracetamol and Ibuprofen and the hospital pharmacy is closed but luckily weāve got some. I can collect him in an hour!
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Oh Sarah, what a rotten thing to happen. I know itās hard to not take it personally but itās probably the way she acts regularly and there was nothing you did to set her off. Some peopleās behaviour is just impossible to fathom.
Iām glad your husbandās op went well and that you can pick him up soon and hopefully have a restful evening x
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Could you add a sale for me please Alison @FluffStuffCrafts - a perfectly imperfect one 
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Congratulations Georgina @GeorginaCrawfordArt and Lorraine @LilacDaisy happy Saturday samba for you both 
How awful Sarah @dotterypottery. She sounds like she would have had a go at anybody and you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. I would be the same - reliving it over and over. Try to concentrate on Mr DP and not think about it if you can. Sending you a virtual hug 
xx
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Hugs Sarah @dotterypottery, she sounded horrid. When I am in situations where I am reliving situations like that, I try and use mindfulness techniques. When she pops into your head, acknowledge she is there but imagine she is on a cloud, and then just gently waft or blow the cloud away. Ditto, if it is your own actions you are reliving - just āseeā them sitting on a cloud and then gently blow them away. It takes practice, but persevere,
When Iām panicking (or in pain), I use something a hypnotherapist taught me for childbirth years ago. I imagine Iām at the top of a flight of stairs, and and walk down slowly, counting backwards from 10. When I get to the bottom (number 0), I start again at 10 if needed. It also takes practice but I find it works - even when I am at the dentist 
Hope you can relax now Mr DP is home. Make the most of the first couple of days where he will sleep lots, as Iām sure you will be fetching and carrying lots as he recuperates. I had youngest with me last year for 12 weeks R&R after major surgery - I was up and down those stairs all day.
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Oh I am SO Sorry Sarah @dotterypottery ā¦yesā¦ think of that woman as the one with a big problem
Mentally surround her in a pink bubble of love ( difficult but she obviously doesnāt have any love in her life and needs help ) Then imagine a pink bubble around yourself, so that any negativity just bounces off itā¦it is hard but you did nothing wrongā¦you are a lovely lady and love will see you through xx
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Thatās awful Sarah @dotterypottery . Isnāt it crazy how someone can inflict that sort of behaviour on you, and youāre the one who ends up carrying it around for goodness knows how long? Sheās probably forgotten it already, or moved onto the next victim. Iāll never understand people who seem to thrive on conflict and drama. I also have a problem moving on from things like that. Iām reading the advice here with interest, as Iāve never found anything that works for me. I like the mindfullness cloud suggestion! Iām going to try that next time Iām re-living something horrible and stupid.
I hope your hubbyās ok after his op, and you both have a peaceful nightās sleep! xx
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Hi Sarah @dotterypottery
Carrie @TheHermitsBothy is correct. Some folk seem to need to cause drama and upset when there isnāt any. They are permanently angry and thrive on causing scenes and upsetting others.
Her poor behaviour is NOT your fault, but you will need time to process what has happened to you.
Yes, you will replay it in your mind because thatās what humans do - they try to make sense of what has happened and also try to reframe the incident by thinking " I should have said ā¦"
I imagine that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time . She would have re acted like that to anyone who was in your position in the queueā¦ Her attack , although I imagine, felt very personal , wasnāt. I imagine she does that sort of thing on a daily basis. How very tiring for her.
From what she said - the words she used- indicate she was felt guilt about pushing in infront of you, which turned to anger and then because you didnāt react , she upped her game to the racist remark.
Over the years Iāve learnt to accept that some folk are just plain unpleasant and nasty.
Acknowledge and process what has happened to you and move on. Also a large glass of wine may help !
In the meantime , sending you big virtual hugs and good wishes to Mr DP for a swift recovery. X
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Sending you big hugs Sarah @dotterypottery what a horrible situation to find yourself in, especially on a day where you had other things on your mind. I hope you can soon put it behind you x
Results from the powerlifting were good - he got 3 personal bests and we all had a lot of fun watching the live stream.
Now on the bus home from football (a win) and an evening out with my sister and brother in law 
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Huge hugs for you Sarah, not what you want when you go shopping, and even harder to cope with when you are already anxious over your husbandās op.
I had similar experiences when I worked for a (different) supermarket, it was a situation that was getting more and more frequent then (3-4 years ago), and was the main reason I left. From what I hear from former colleagues it is even worse now, so it certainly wasnāt your fault. A sad state of our societies, not just here, but all across the world. Thank heavens the Daily Challenge is full of lovely people.
And cake.
We are the Sanctuary from rudeness. x 
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Morning all. Getting nicely light here, but just waiting for the wind and rain storm 
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Morning everyone
The weather was lovely here yesterday so I was out in the garden planting some roses and hibiscus out
Iāve been waiting several weeks for it to be warm enough and dry enough to be able to do this, and the plants (bare roots) have all sent out shoots in the meantime. Theyāre only cheap onesā¦ so I donāt know if Iāll have any success with them.
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Good morning, itās quite warm but very blustery here today.
That sounds horrendous Sarah @dotterypottery , Iām so sorry that you had to go through that. Sending you virtual hugs.
Itās the last day of the 25% off sale running in my shop, and Iām sharing a black and white trinket pot today.
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Well done to your son Mel @aquilacrafts
I will save extra cake for you Sarah @dotterypottery xx
today I have a landscape card
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